Tired of All the Rhetoric and Confusion?

Maybe the real question isn't, "Was I born gay?" but rather, "Does it really matter if I was or not?"

For years you have kept your attraction to the same gender a secret. It's likely you have been thinking - "No one can completely understand what I'm going through."

"Is it really possible for a person to change an attraction? Listen: a habit, an addiction, maybe...but an attraction?"

What exactly do you mean by "freedom from homosexuality?"

I would be able to withstand temptation for brief periods, but I would always go back to my old lifestyle. My sin provided me with fleeting pleasure and I used it in times of trouble and stress in my life. I had not yet learned to trust God to take care of my needs.

My need was not for more of myself and personal strength, my need was to submit myself fully to my Lord Jesus Christ and let His strength and His victory be my strength and my victory. I had always tried to motivate myself through fear of God rather than be motivated by the love of God. I had a difficult time relating to God, the Father. Over time, I learned that my true nature is not that of a failed sinner, but of a loved child of the Most High God. The Holy Spirit moved this simple revelation from my head to my heart. My understanding of my relationship to God, the Father, bettered my fellowship with God - Jim.

It wasn't until I got to the point of being sick and tired of my lifestyle that I sought help. Once I admitted to God, to my wife, and to myself that I was powerless over my struggles, I began to seek help. Help came in the form of an advertisement in the Bakersfield Californian newspaper about a ministry which helps people struggling with the issue of homosexuality. His Way Out Ministries became an oasis in a spiritual desert - a desert that I'd been hopelessly wandering in for too many years - Gary.

So began a journey! We started attending a monthly Family Support meeting with His Way Out and let me tell you; those first few meetings were very tough emotionally with lots of tears. We were surrounded by a group of people who were going through the same difficulties and brokenness that we were going through. These loving people had been where I was and offered so much insight to the sexually broken and what worked for them, as well as, continually giving us hope - Steve & Alonna

Through my new relationship with God and the knowledge of His Word, I understood why sexual sins seem to be worse than any other. Sexual sin not only involves my body, which is God's temple, but also my spirit. My broken relationship with God drove me to isolate from others, hide my feelings, and disguise my behavior.

Today, I know that in my relationship with God I don't have to be perfect, and I don't have to be homosexual either - Jorge

Ready for some more good news? You do not have to be alone in your fight and struggle against same-gender attraction! Many of us at His Way Out Ministries have "been there, done that!" There's simply nothing you could say or do that would make us think less of you. All of us at His Way Out Ministries would like to help you achieve the dreams you have envisioned for so long. We would like to offer you the support and encouragement you will need to attain those goals.

No doubt, you have many questions - many of which are on a very, very personal level. You deserve truthful answers. That's why it is extremely important that you don't just read this newsletter, but follow through and give us a call. We want to help you move forward. Rest assured, your confidential call will be treated with the utmost respect and discretion.

Homosexuality is a painful and confusing issue for any man or woman to live with. We believe that you can win the battle! We look forward to hearing from you and to help you find the freedom you've been looking for.

From All of Us at His Way Out Ministries...

Bless you for your encouragement, ministry participation, monthly financial support, offerings and prayers. His Way Out Ministries is proclaiming to, educating and impacting the world with the biblical truth that freedom from homosexuality is possible when Jesus Christ is Lord of your life.

Prayerfully Yours,

Pastor Phillip Lee

Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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We Need Your Support!

Through your donations, God enables us to minister Christ's healing to the sexually broken around the world. All of us at His Way Out Ministries remember that God has provided financially for the needs of this ministry and a growing staff for more than thirteen years, and we thank Him for it. We rely on your help, and pray God will keep His Way Out Ministries on your heart. Thank you for your faithfulness, especially during the lean summer months.

You can send a offering to:
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Marriage Been Impacted by Homosexuality?

This is more common than many may imagine. On the first Saturday of each month from 9am to 11am, His Way Out Ministries offers a break out session for wives whose marriage has been impacted by homosexuality. The group creates a sense of community which can decrease the painful sense of shame, secrecy and isolation so many wives can feel. Through mutual support and understanding, group members are helped as they confront difficult issues in their lives. A variety of feelings, including shock, hurt, anger and confusion are addressed. The group meetings are facilitated by Ginny Mitchell, an Advisory Board member of His Way Out Ministries.

Our spouse group offers support, resources and information in a safe and confidential setting.

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TIME OUT

(A Discipleship Series for Men Struggling with Same-Gender Attraction)
March 8 - July 26, 2008
Meetings: 9:00am to 11:00am

March 8 - Introduction: Can Homosexuals Really Change?
What does change mean to you? How does the Bible describe change? To what extent do you believe change is possible from a homosexual background?

March 22 - Biblical and Scientific Evidence for Change
Coming to terms with the Bible's position on homosexuality. What about the pro-gay interpretations of Scripture? How do we balance trust in God with unresolved feelings? Is heterosexuality the goal?

April 12 - The Dynamics of Change
What does the "Lordship of Christ" mean to you? Have you been able to share with others about your homosexual struggles? Where are you in your Christian journey? What are some of the practical steps for change?

April 26 - Exposing the Roots
When did you first begin to question your sexual identity? How have you been affected by family dynamics, peer pressure, temperament or sexual abuse? Homosexuality is acquired?

May 10 - Saying Goodby
What factors motivated you to leave homosexuality behind? Have you experienced grief as a part of saying goodby? Describe some ways you've dealt with loneliness?

May 24 - Breaking Addictive Patterns
Has pornography played any role in your struggle? When do you believe sexual temptation evolves into sin? What are some effective strategies for dealing with sexual temptation?

June 14 - What's On Your Mind?
What triggers have you identified to sexual temptation? Our weapons of spiritual warfare, Getting proper support.

June 28 - Change in Self-Identity
What do you think of giving up the homosexual identity?, Do you agree that everyone is born heterosexual? How do you identity yourself in terms of gender identity? Which bible characters do you consider as role models?

July 12 - Forming Healthy Friendships
What character qualities do you look for in a friend? Emotional dependency and defensive attachment. What has been your greatest hindrance in forming healthy friendships?

July 26 - Moving On
Giving yourself permission to be the unique person God made you to be.

Registration is required and may be completed by calling our office. (661) 589-4262 His Way Out Ministries, 1412 17th Street, Suite 313, Bakersfield, CA 93301<br>
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ONLINE SPECIAL: Phillip Lee LIVE at UBC

On Sunday, October 10, 2007, Pastor Phillip Lee spoke to the congregation of University Baptist Church on the subject What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?

You can Listen LIVE to the 6.2 MB, 36min, MP3 at this link.

Give it a few moments to begin downloading and it will play. Windows 95/98 users make sure your Windows Media Player (or other MP3 software) is up to date. Right-click and choose "Save Target As..." to save it on your computer. (If Internet Explorer attempts to save as .mpga you can change it to an .mp3 file type.) You can then play it later or copy it to any MP3 portable player.

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L.I.F.E. Group

Are you a family member, spouse, friend or pastor of someone struggling with homosexuality? Or, are you possibly someone that would just like to learn about the complexities of same-gender attraction in order to better understand and ultimately help someone struggling with same-gender attraction? Then our L.I.F.E. Group which meets faithfully on the first Saturday of each month from 9am to 11am is for you!

On Saturday, January 5th, our special guest speaker/teacher will be Rev. Steven Yeary, Senior Pastor of Brimhall Road Assembly of God and President of His Way Out Ministries.

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How You Can Help His Way Out Ministries

Ask your pastor to check out this website.
Encourage your pastor to consider hosting a seminar or inviting His Way Out Ministries to speak at your church.
Ask your church to consider adding His Way Out Ministries to its missions budget.
Add His Way Out Ministries to your prayer list.
Tell your friends about His Way Out Ministries and encourage them to visit this web site.
Give to His Way Out Ministries, either a special one-time gift or on a monthly basis.
Show our teaching DVD or Video: "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change" to your Sunday School class.

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Video: "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change"

Homosexuality and the Reality of Change presents a biblical perspective on the homosexual behavior with honesty and compassion. The 50 minute video contains information on: Can Homosexuals Really Change?, Will the Person Become Heterosexual?, How Long Does Change Take?, Exposing the Roots of Homosexuality, HIV and AIDS, Biblical and Scientific Evidence for Change, and much, much more.

This video is an excellent resource for teachers, churches, pastors, support group leaders, or anyone desiring a clear, comprehensive understanding of homosexuality.

The Good News of Jesus Christ and His love, acceptance, and forgiveness, His power to heal and restore has brought hope to many struggling with homosexuality. If you know someone struggling with same-gender attractions Homosexuality and the Reality of Change can help.

Videos are available on VHS or DVD at a cost of $20.00. To order your video...give us a call today.

We recently received, and watched, the video you sent us. It was excellent. We will be sharing it with other people at our church. One part that especially ministered to us was when Pastor Lee said from Philippians 1:6 that God is never going to give up His job of working in our life to conform us to the image of Christ. It helps makes sense of life's trials. Thank you for your ministry...Tom & Catherine

Preview "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change"
2min 38sec, 1.3MB, QT.mov

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IT'S ABOUT LIFE
Food Ministry to Those Impacted by AIDS

AIDS profoundly impacts one's life whether that person has been infected by it or they are a family member or a friend of someone who has. The social stigmas, fears and especially the "aloneness" associated with AIDS makes it oppressive to live with. "IT'S ABOUT LIFE" is a crucial part of His Way Out Ministries. Because His Way Out Ministries is committed to compassionately communicating God's heart through a caring Christian community, His Way Out Ministries will be a receiving house for non-perishable food items. This will assist those with AIDS to maintain a balanced diet and good nutrition. Two major considerations in food donations for folks with AIDS are speed and ease of preparation. An appetite sometimes doesn't last long and the item has to be readily accessible and speedily prepared for the patient to be able to enjoy it.

We invite churches, companies, ministries, corporations, individuals, and the entire City of Bakersfield to join with us in caring. Offer your support by donating the below listed items.

Canned tuna	Canned soups
Canned ravioli	Canned pasta products, e.g.Spaghettio's
Hamburger Helper	Peanut butter
Hamburger Helper	Peanut butter
Jams and jellies	Breakfast cereals
Breakfast bars	Fruit cocktail
Canned peaches	Top Ramen
Cup o' Noodle soups	Canned potatoes
Canned corn	Macaroni and cheese mixes
Rice 'o Roni type mixes	Chili beans
Tomato paste, Tomato sauce	Spaghetti sauce
Potted meats	Canned stews
Instant potato mixes, e.g., scalloped	Instant oatmeal variety packs
Kleenex	Paper towels
Toilet paper	Popsicles (not frozen)
Instant breakfast drinks	Spaghetti

His Way Out Ministries is located in The Haberfelde Building in downtown Bakersfield, California; 1412 17th Street, Suite 313. Items will be distributed in cooperation with other outreaches in our community. This is a continuous, on-going ministry. For further information, please call (661) 321-9551. God Bless You for your giving.

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His Way Out Ministries Services

Consultations

Family Support Group

Individual Prayer Ministry

"Time Out" Discipleship Series

Ministry Support Network

Speakers available to address Christian groups

"Moving On" Advanced/Closed Support Groups

"It's About Life" Ministry to Those Impacted by AIDS

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