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September 2007 Highlights

Really, What Would Jesus Do? By Pastor Phillip Lee

Recently, I read an article that compared the difference between homosexual orientation versus homosexual practice (behavior). A very critical and important question was offered and it caused me to question just how effective we, the Church, have been and continue to be in reaching men and women that struggle with same-gender attraction. The question asked - "If we Christians cannot love those struggling with homosexuality as we love ourselves, then aren't we violating the command of Jesus (Matthew 19:19) and ought not to call ourselves Christians?"

I believe if Jesus were here today He would reach out in love to men and women struggling with same-gender attraction and require that the Church treat the same with dignity and respect. I also believe that Jesus would seek and work towards providing a safe environment for those struggling with homosexuality to express their brokenness without fear of condemnation or persecution. Why? Because no one has ever asked to have a homosexual orientation and it is critically important to distinguish between homosexual orientation versus homosexual practice (behavior).

After thirteen years of full-time ministry to those struggling with an unwanted homosexual orientation, I remain in awe of the many men and women and their commitment to what they believe are clear biblical guidelines against the practice of homosexuality. Hands down, each man and each woman while fully admitting that a same-gender attraction orientation was not by their choosing, acting upon those desires is another matter. Clearly, orientation occurs and develops so early in life that many wake up one day and ask "How did I get here?" Trust me; realizing that you have a homosexual orientation is one of the most frightening and monumentally despairing times in a person's life. Tragically, it takes the overwhelming majority of men and women that make the decision to address their same-gender attraction issue a huge amount of time and effort before they realize their orientation is not chosen but behavior is.

Today, many have adopted the opinion that for any man or woman to be saved and healed from homosexuality, they must not have even a hint of a homosexual orientation. In other words, victory over temptation is not good enough. Hmmm! Causes me to ask - "Is my right standing with God the Father determined by that which may sorely tempt me or is it in the truth of Scripture which clearly states "He who overcomes will, like them, be dressed in white. I will never blot out his name from the book of life, but will acknowledge his name before my Father and his angels" (Revelation 3:5).

To say to someone struggling with homosexuality that "With God all things are possible" (Matthew 19:26) is completely correct. However, to communicate that "He will" totally and completely eradicate your homosexual orientation is a bit presumptuous and all together different. How many of us could share testimony of how we have prayed and prayed for a loved one to be healed of any number of life-threatening illnesses, only to have the individual pass away. Yes, God can heal AIDS or cancer, but not everyone is healed. It's just too simplistic to believe that because God can do something, He will. Many men and women struggling with homosexuality have prayed for years to be delivered from their homosexual orientation - but it still exists. Some things in which we have prayed and asked God to move mightily may only be answered when we reach heaven. Frankly, I do not understand this - but I cannot deny that it is true.

Homosexuals do not choose their orientation anymore than heterosexuals do. Why would anyone deliberately set out to become homosexual? The anguish, pain, and social oppression alone are hardly things that anyone would ask to come their way. Now, before I am misunderstood, I am not attempting to by pass or gloss over sound biblical teachings and somehow validate the practice of homosexuality, I am simply reminding Christians that we are supposed to love all people - even those we have sometimes been taught and conditioned to reject and despise.

Can you even begin to imagine what an intense battle a Christian faces when sexual orientation and traditional teachings against the practice of homosexuality collide? Frankly, the individuals anguish is seldom considered or appreciated by someone that has never struggled with same-gender attraction. That is exactly why the Christian community should be a safe haven for homosexual persons to be honest about their orientation thereby giving the Church a glorious opportunity to encourage each other on to lifestyles that glorify Christ. Isn't that what Jesus would do?

Of course, as followers of Christ, the practice of homosexuality should never be encouraged or affirmed. However, when any man or woman has the courage and the integrity to disclose their battle with homosexuality, that in and of itself should never be taken lightly and viewed as an opportunity to share Christ's love and acceptance for and to the individual. The delicate balance, if not a down-right challenge, is our willingness to keep the lines of communication open and enter in to the relationship without compromising truth or love. It means not backing down from the truth of Scripture and remaining dedicated to "reaching" men and women in a Christ-like way. Since love is basic to Christianity, His love must be extended to all persons - including those that struggle with homosexuality. That, I am convinced, is exactly what Jesus would do.

From All of Us at His Way Out Ministries...

His Way Out Ministries is a world-wide interdenominational, Christian ministry called to encourage, strengthen, unify and equip Christians to minister the transforming power of the Lord Jesus Christ to those affected by homosexuality. To each of you who continually bless us by your encouragement, ministry participation, monthly financial support, offerings and prayers...we remain truly grateful.

Prayerfully Yours,

Pastor Phillip Lee

Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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We Need Your Support!

Through your donations, God enables us to minister Christ's healing to the sexually broken around the world. All of us at His Way Out Ministries remember that God has provided financially for the needs of this ministry and a growing staff for more than thirteen years, and we thank Him for it. We rely on your help, and pray God will keep His Way Out Ministries on your heart. Thank you for your faithfulness, especially during the lean summer months.

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Love Won Out Conference

Saturday, October 13, 2007

At the Love Won Out Conference you'll hear from nationally known experts who have firsthand experience with the seldom-told side of the homosexual issue. You'll be equipped to minister in truth and compassion to a loved one who deals with same-gender attractions, respond to misinformation in our culture and defend biblical beliefs with grace and understanding. But mostly, you'll be encouraged by the power of God's love and His desire to transform those impacted by homosexuality and lead people into freedom in Jesus Christ. For more information about Love Won Out conference please visit LoveWonOut.com

His Way Out Ministries will be participating in the Love Won Out Conference which is sponsored by Focus on the Family.


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His Way Out Ministries Educational Workshops

A Christian Response to Homosexuality

For any Christian concerned about the issue of homosexuality and how the Church can more effectively respond to it. An overview of the Church's response to homosexuality and the areas in which we can improve our capacity to speak the truth in love.

Homosexuality and the Reality of Change

Pastor Phillip Lee, Executive Director of His Way Out Ministries, brings a wealth of personal, as well as pastoral experience to this workshop. Pastor Lee will share his testimony, ad well as discuss the questions: Can homosexuals really change?, How long does change take?, Will the person become heterosexual?, and much more.

There's Something I Need to Tell You! (When a Loved One Confesses They're Homosexual)

What do you say and do when a loved one confesses they are homosexual? This workshop offers practical steps and information to help you understand your loved one, guidance to keep the lines of communication open without compromising your beliefs, and present the biblical position on homosexuality.

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In your own church, and throughout the entire world, people are in need of God's clarity about their relationships and their sexuality. Each of the above mentioned workshops rests entirely upon the Authority of Scripture versus the interpretations of some of the social sciences. At His Way Out Ministries, we are committed to effectively and compassionately communicating God's heart concerning sexual brokenness and wholeness, while disputing the unchangeable nature of sexual orientation.

For further information about the workshops listed above or to schedule an Educational Workshop in your church, please call (661) 589-4262.

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The Gay Gospel? A Book by Joe Dallas

The following excerpts are taken directly from Joe's book and used with permission.

Argument: "The Bible is a good book, but its authors knew nothing of the homosexual orientation when they condemned homosexual behavior."

This argument is misleading because it assumes that orientation justifies behavior. It's audacious to think a behavior is legitimate just because a person is naturally inclined toward it. Recent studies indicate there may well be such a thing as an "orientation" toward drunkenness and violence. Are we to assume that if the Bible's authors knew nothing of these conditions either, that we should revise our view of alcoholism or violent behavior? Nowhere in the Bible is any behavior condemned with a qualification, as in, "Thou shalt not do this thing unless thou hast an orientation toward it." Nor does the context of a "loving relationship" justify any sexual sin mentioned in Scripture, as pro-gay spokesmen would have us believe. The love between two homosexuals cannot make homosexuality normal or legitimate, any more than the love of two people committing adultery justifies the breaking of marital vows.

Besides, if orientation justifies sexual behavior, why stop at homosexuality? Pedophilia is believed by some experts to be an orientation; bestiality may be seen the same way in the future. Does biblical ignorance of these conditions nullify biblical injunctions against the actions they result in?

Not if Scripture is truly inspired - and there's the crux of the issue. If the Holy Spirit indeed moved the biblical authors to write under His guidance, as 2 Timothy 3:16 asserts, then it's insulting to think the third person of the Trinity was ignorant of the human condition. If the Bible prohibits certain behaviors only because its authors were ignorant of the "orientations" leading to them, then it is not, as it claims to be, "profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness" (2 Timothy 3:16). Rather, it is outdated, uninformed, and irrelevant. There is no middle ground.

"It is ludicrous to believe that the Creator of the universe, in guiding the biblical authors, was ignorant concerning the things we know about homosexuality through modern biology, psychology, sociology, and so forth. To deny scriptural statements about homosexuality on these grounds is to completely deny God's superintendence in the authorship of Scripture." John Gudel - Christian Research Journal

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Coming Up This Month!

September 1st - L.I.F.E. (Living in Fellowship...Even in Tough Times). Our series, Confronting Pro-Gay Theology: A Balance of Truth and Grace continues by turning our attention to "Pro-Gay Arguments - Part Two." Scripturally speaking - is homosexuality inborn? Is homosexuality unchangeable? Is homophobia the real problem? How can love of 'any type' be wrong? And much more will be covered.

If you have chosen to leave homosexuality, or you are a spouse, family member or friend of someone struggling with homosexuality...this group is for you! L.I.F.E. meets faithfully on the first Saturday of each month from 9am to11am. Teaching materials are provided.

September 3rd - Labor Day - His Way Out Ministries Office Closed

September 8th - "TIME OUT" Men's Discipleship Support Group - We will be discussing "Repentance" and what it really means to repent and what our responsibilities are when we decide to turn away from our sin. Time Out meets from 9am to 11am.

September 15th - His Way Out Ministries "Advisory Board Meeting"

September 22nd - "TIME OUT" Men's Discipleship Support Group - "Beyond the Ex-Gay Plateau" will be our focus with particular attention given to discussing "my identity must be in who I am, not in what I've done in the past." Time Out meets from 9am to 11am.

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How You Can Help His Way Out Ministries

  • Ask your pastor to check out this website.

  • Encourage your pastor to consider hosting a seminar or inviting His Way Out Ministries to speak at your church.

  • Ask your church to consider adding His Way Out Ministries to its missions budget.

  • Add His Way Out Ministries to your prayer list.

  • Tell your friends about His Way Out Ministries and encourage them to visit this web site.

  • Give to His Way Out Ministries, either a special one-time gift or on a monthly basis.

  • Show our teaching DVD or Video: "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change" to your Sunday School class.

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Video: "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change"


Homosexuality and the Reality of Change presents a biblical perspective on the homosexual behavior with honesty and compassion. The 50 minute video contains information on: Can Homosexuals Really Change?, Will the Person Become Heterosexual?, How Long Does Change Take?, Exposing the Roots of Homosexuality, HIV and AIDS, Biblical and Scientific Evidence for Change, and much, much more.

This video is an excellent resource for teachers, churches, pastors, support group leaders, or anyone desiring a clear, comprehensive understanding of homosexuality.

The Good News of Jesus Christ and His love, acceptance, and forgiveness, His power to heal and restore has brought hope to many struggling with homosexuality. If you know someone struggling with same-gender attractions Homosexuality and the Reality of Change can help.

Videos are available on VHS or DVD at a cost of $20.00. To order your video...give us a call today.

We recently received, and watched, the video you sent us. It was excellent. We will be sharing it with other people at our church. One part that especially ministered to us was when Pastor Lee said from Philippians 1:6 that God is never going to give up His job of working in our life to conform us to the image of Christ. It helps makes sense of life's trials. Thank you for your ministry...Tom & Catherine

Preview "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change"
2min 38sec, 1.3MB, QT.mov

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IT'S ABOUT LIFE:
Food Ministry to Those Impacted by AIDS


AIDS profoundly impacts one's life whether that person has been infected by it or they are a family member or a friend of someone who has. The social stigmas, fears and especially the "aloneness" associated with AIDS makes it oppressive to live with. "IT'S ABOUT LIFE" is a crucial part of His Way Out Ministries. Because His Way Out Ministries is committed to compassionately communicating God's heart through a caring Christian community, His Way Out Ministries will be a receiving house for non-perishable food items. This will assist those with AIDS to maintain a balanced diet and good nutrition. Two major considerations in food donations for folks with AIDS are speed and ease of preparation. An appetite sometimes doesn't last long and the item has to be readily accessible and speedily prepared for the patient to be able to enjoy it.

We invite churches, companies, ministries, corporations, individuals, and the entire City of Bakersfield to join with us in caring. Offer your support by donating the below listed items.

Canned tuna Canned soups
Canned ravioli Canned pasta products, e.g.Spaghettio's
Hamburger Helper Peanut butter
Hamburger Helper Peanut butter
Jams and jellies Breakfast cereals
Breakfast bars Fruit cocktail
Canned peaches Top Ramen
Cup o' Noodle soups Canned potatoes
Canned corn Macaroni and cheese mixes
Rice 'o Roni type mixes Chili beans
Tomato paste, Tomato sauce Spaghetti sauce
Potted meats Canned stews
Instant potato mixes, e.g., scalloped Instant oatmeal variety packs
Kleenex Paper towels
Toilet paper Popsicles (not frozen)
Instant breakfast drinks Spaghetti

His Way Out Ministries is located at Brimhall Road Assembly of God. Items will be distributed in cooperation with other outreaches in our community. This is a continuous, on-going ministry. For further information, please call 661-589-4262. God Bless You for your giving.

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His Way Out Ministries Services

  • Consultations
  • Family Support Group
  • Individual Prayer Ministry
  • "Time Out" Discipleship Series
  • Ministry Support Network
  • Speakers available to address Christian groups
  • "Moving On" Advanced/Closed Support Groups
  • "It's About Life" Ministry to Those Impacted by AIDS

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In your own church, and throughout this entire world, people are in need of God's clarity about their relationships and their sexuality. Participating in the work of H.W.O.M. is one way to acknowledge Christ's healing power for the sexually broken.

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