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July 2007 Highlights

What to Do After Committing Sexual Sin by Pastor Phillip Lee

First, let me be clear in defining a "failure." A failure is not a person that falls, stumbles or even commits a sexual sin. A failure is an individual that refuses to get up and go again after sinning. Simply trying to forget what happened only makes matters worse because it only fuels the myriad of emotions connected to the unconfessed, undealt with sin that remains inside. Therefore, what should a man or woman do after sinning sexually in order to restore peace with God and one's self?

1. If we are truly to be free from the shame, guilt, self-condemnation, etc., we must first be willing to humble ourselves before God and confess our sin (1 John 1:9). True confession of our sin is not just verbalizing our hopelessness, doubts that we will ever be free, or making statements such as "I'm a loser!" Confession is an admittance that we have sinned against God while at the same time receiving His forgiveness and believing that He does cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

2. Confess the sin to a pastor, a trusted brother or sister in Christ or a counselor. James 5: 16 states very clearly "...confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective."Ask the one you have confided in to specifically pray against and in the Name of Jesus break any all demonic power that may have occurred during the ungodly sexual union.

3. In your own words, journal out what feelings, thoughts, or conditions enabled the sexual sin to occur. In other words, sexual sin just doesn't happen. There is always a progression of things that occur up to the point of the incident.

4. Consider and examine the roots of your sexual sin. Adultery, homosexuality, sexual promiscuity, etc. are only symptomatic of a far greater crisis within. What is it that is fueling the fleshly desire? Often, very often, an individual's pain (anger, jealousy, self-pity, etc.) can be found that is enabling an individual's attitude of "I deserve attention." Also, many men and women have unresolved issues with God in terms of their question of "Why did I have to go through this?"

5. Embrace the truth that sexual sin does not mean you have lost your salvation. The goal of confession is to be able to come to total repentance - a complete turning from sin because we realize it is only by humbling ourselves before God that He will lift us up and make our lives significant. In seeking the ultimate goal of repentance it is vitally important to remember that true repentance requires a change of heart and mind; a heart and mind that loves God first and foremost and desires to obey His truth.

If you or someone you love is in a battle with sexual sin, there is hope! Our Lord never identifies anyone as evil unless the person is sold out to doing evil with no remorse or repentance. God is merciful and abounding in love to those who have been sold into sin by their joining in with temptation. However, each person (by their own choice and exercising of their free will) must forsake ways that are contrary to God's will and plan for their life and submit to Him. God, who is rich in mercy, is willing to forgive and cleanse every and any evil desire from our hearts. But we must choose His ways above ungodly desires that war against the Spirit of God. God's promise remains that there can be an end to sexual sin of any type or to any degree if we yield to His truth.

From All of Us at His Way Out Ministries...

To each of you who continually bless us by your encouragement, ministry participation, monthly financial support, offerings, and prayers...we remain truly grateful. His Way Out Ministries is proclaiming to, educating, and impacting the world with the biblical truth that freedom from homosexuality is possible when Jesus Christ is Lord of your life.

Prayerfully Yours,

Pastor Phillip Lee

Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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We Need Your Support!

Few ministries are as difficult to fund as those which seek to reach homosexual men and women with the healing power of Jesus Christ. And yet, His Way Out Ministries continues to receive regular requests for help from individuals all over the world. Certainly, no one could have guessed when His Way Out Ministries began some thirteen years ago where we would be culturally today. Our country and the world is in great need of our focus of ministry. His Way Out Ministries is but a small voice in the midst of loud voices. But we speak with God's message, and we must continue to serve our brothers and sisters who cry out for help.

Indeed, we are in a cultural war and our children and grandchildren are the casualties. Will you continue to help us bring healing to individuals and families? We rely on your help, and pray God will keep this ministry on your heart.

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Dear His Way Out Ministries...

"I am thankful for our staff to know the availability of your ministry as a resource within the Christian community. Your ministry is a testament to God's transforming grace. Thank you for sharing your heart and ministry with us." Rev. Roger Spradlin, Valley Baptist Church, Bakersfield, CA.

"Thank you for speaking God's truth about homosexuality. We were all blessed by what you shared. May God bless your ministry!" Pastor Jared Dragoun, Associate Pastor, RiverLakes Community Church, Bakersfield, CA.

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The Born Gay Theory by Darren Thompson

The "born gay" theory really began to be embraced during the early 1990's as a result of the findings by three prominent scientist alleging genetic and biological influences of sexual orientation. Each of the studies gained great headlines by suggesting homosexuality was possibly inborn. It is interesting to note that each of these three scientists were also homosexual. Although we do not discount their findings just because they are homosexual, it may reveal a bias.

At about the same time, in 1990, an international, collaborative research project set out to map and understand human genes. All our genes together are known as our "genome." The research program was named the Human Genome Project and was funded by the U.S. Department of Energy and the National Institutes of Health.

In 1999, after nearly ten years of systematic learning by the Human Genome Project, Canadian scientists at the Department of Clinical Neurological Sciences of the University of Western Ontario attempted to confirm if earlier theories of a genetic basis for sexual orientation were correct. Up until that point there had not been a duplication of any major study's finding on this area of study, including the 1993 report by Dr. Hamer of the National Cancer Institute in Bethesda, Maryland. Dr. Hamer had hypothesized that since there are a great number of homosexual uncles and cousins on the the mother's side that the mother was the one who carried the genetic markers of homosexuality on the X chromosome that she passed down to her children.

He analyzed the DNA of forty families that produced two gay sons and concluded that 75% of the time the gay brothers shared certain genetic markers on the q28 region on the arm of the X chromosome. Dr. Hamer was hopeful of the likelihood that the Human Genome Project was going to discover many genetic links to human sexual behavior. One significant problem with Dr. Hamer's study, though, was his failure to check whether the heterosexual brothers from those families shared the markers in question. The Canadian scientists, however, did study that variable and consequently came to a different conclusion than Dr. Hamer. Based on a greater sample of families than had previously been examined and with a keener understanding of genes at the time, they established that the genetic markers on the region of the X chromosome in question had a causation effect of homosexuality 55% of the time. The Ontario team found that the gay brothers were no more likely to share the Xq28 markers than would be expected by chance. They disproved the validity of this earlier theory about a "gay gene."

In 2003, the Human Genome Project finished reaching its objectives early, again, without finding scientific proof for a genetic predisposition of homosexuality. So in other words, if a scientist pulled ten random people out of a crowd and examined their DNA, scientists would not be able to classify who was homosexual. The only way that one would know who was gay or not was if they shared their sexual history. The use of scientific inquiry is inadequate at identifying homosexual people.

In fact, pro-gay organizations are well aware of these findings. Recently, I was perusing the web sites of pro-gay organizations (many of which are influencing youth's views on the behavior) to determine their spin on these conclusions. I did not find one reference by these advocacy groups to a single scientific study or scientist that substantiates gay people are "born gay." What I found on their sites was a variety of answers to the question, why people are gay, which include: "No one really knows...," "Experts suggest there are biological, environmental and societal contributors" or "Why ask why?"

The reason this question cannot be answered by scientists is that God is not in the business of making homosexuals. There is no scientific reason to continue the Nature versus Nurture debate.

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Argument/Answer

Argument: The Bible teaches us that the main duty of man is to love God first and then to love his neighbor as himself. That's got nothing to do with our sex life.

Answer: On the contrary, it has everything to do with our sex life, as it has everything to do with every other part of our life. If we are unwilling to conform to God's will in all areas of our life, then we have no business saying that we love Him. The question isn't whether or not we claim to love God, but whether or not our actions are in harmony with His expressed will.

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Workshops, Support Groups, Recommended Reading

Have you explored our web site lately? In addition to our monthly newsletter you will find a wealth of information on His Way Out Ministries including details on a variety of Educational Workshops and various Support Groups offered by His Way Out Ministries. Also, our Recommended Reading offers a list of recommended books written by various authors that are excellent to help you better understand the complexities of same-gender attraction and related issues.

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Coming Up This Month!

July 7th - L.I.F.E. (Living in Fellowship...Even in Tough Times). Continuing our teaching series titled Confronting Pro-Gay Theology: A Balance of Truth and Grace, we will turn our attention and discussion to "Gay Christians?" Exactly what do those who call themselves gay Christians believe? If you have chosen to leave homosexuality, or you are a spouse, family member or friend of someone struggling with homosexuality...this group is for you! L.I.F.E. meets faithfully on the first Saturday of each month from 9am to 11am.

A breakout session is offered at our L.I.F.E. Support Group meetings for wives whose marriage has been impacted by homosexuality.

July 14th - "TIME OUT" Men's Discipleship Support Group - On Saturday, July 14th our lesson focus will be "Deception: The Power of Unbelief." If we make choices based on what others say about us, essentially we are allowing those people to make our decisions. But if we listen to a different source, a source of truth that never changes its opinions, we are free to run in any direction we choose - all options are open. Time Out meets from 9am to 11am.

July 21st - His Way Out Ministries "Advisory Board" Meeting.

July 28th - "TIME OUT" Men's Discipleship Support Group - "Narcissism" will be our subject focus. There is one thing that all homosexual strugglers share that they don't necessarily have in common with the rest of the world: narcissism. There are times when self-evaluation is helpful, but when it constantly fixates on flaws, it never brings about the appropriate response of someone desiring change. Therefore, what is narcissism? What does it look like? How do I identify narcissism in my life? Time Out meets from 9am to 11am.

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How You Can Help His Way Out Ministries

  • Ask your pastor to check out this website.

  • Encourage your pastor to consider hosting a seminar or inviting His Way Out Ministries to speak at your church.

  • Ask your church to consider adding His Way Out Ministries to its missions budget.

  • Add His Way Out Ministries to your prayer list.

  • Tell your friends about His Way Out Ministries and encourage them to visit this web site.

  • Give to His Way Out Ministries, either a special one-time gift or on a monthly basis.

  • Show our teaching DVD or Video: "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change" to your Sunday School class.

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Video: "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change"


Homosexuality and the Reality of Change presents a biblical perspective on the homosexual behavior with honesty and compassion. The 50 minute video contains information on: Can Homosexuals Really Change?, Will the Person Become Heterosexual?, How Long Does Change Take?, Exposing the Roots of Homosexuality, HIV and AIDS, Biblical and Scientific Evidence for Change, and much, much more.

This video is an excellent resource for teachers, churches, pastors, support group leaders, or anyone desiring a clear, comprehensive understanding of homosexuality.

The Good News of Jesus Christ and His love, acceptance, and forgiveness, His power to heal and restore has brought hope to many struggling with homosexuality. If you know someone struggling with same-gender attractions Homosexuality and the Reality of Change can help.

Videos are available on VHS or DVD at a cost of $20.00. To order your video...give us a call today.

We recently received, and watched, the video you sent us. It was excellent. We will be sharing it with other people at our church. One part that especially ministered to us was when Pastor Lee said from Philippians 1:6 that God is never going to give up His job of working in our life to conform us to the image of Christ. It helps makes sense of life's trials. Thank you for your ministry...Tom & Catherine

Preview "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change"
2min 38sec, 1.3MB, QT.mov

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IT'S ABOUT LIFE:
Food Ministry to Those Impacted by AIDS


AIDS profoundly impacts one's life whether that person has been infected by it or they are a family member or a friend of someone who has. The social stigmas, fears and especially the "aloneness" associated with AIDS makes it oppressive to live with. "IT'S ABOUT LIFE" is a crucial part of His Way Out Ministries. Because His Way Out Ministries is committed to compassionately communicating God's heart through a caring Christian community, His Way Out Ministries will be a receiving house for non-perishable food items. This will assist those with AIDS to maintain a balanced diet and good nutrition. Two major considerations in food donations for folks with AIDS are speed and ease of preparation. An appetite sometimes doesn't last long and the item has to be readily accessible and speedily prepared for the patient to be able to enjoy it.

We invite churches, companies, ministries, corporations, individuals, and the entire City of Bakersfield to join with us in caring. Offer your support by donating the below listed items.

Canned tuna Canned soups
Canned ravioli Canned pasta products, e.g.Spaghettio's
Hamburger Helper Peanut butter
Hamburger Helper Peanut butter
Jams and jellies Breakfast cereals
Breakfast bars Fruit cocktail
Canned peaches Top Ramen
Cup o' Noodle soups Canned potatoes
Canned corn Macaroni and cheese mixes
Rice 'o Roni type mixes Chili beans
Tomato paste, Tomato sauce Spaghetti sauce
Potted meats Canned stews
Instant potato mixes, e.g., scalloped Instant oatmeal variety packs
Kleenex Paper towels
Toilet paper Popsicles (not frozen)
Instant breakfast drinks Spaghetti

His Way Out Ministries is located at Brimhall Road Assembly of God. Items will be distributed in cooperation with other outreaches in our community. This is a continuous, on-going ministry. For further information, please call 661-589-4262. God Bless You for your giving.

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His Way Out Ministries Services

  • Consultations
  • Family Support Group
  • Individual Prayer Ministry
  • "Time Out" Discipleship Series
  • Ministry Support Network
  • Speakers available to address Christian groups
  • "Moving On" Advanced/Closed Support Groups
  • "It's About Life" Ministry to Those Impacted by AIDS

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Send a Donation to His Way Out

In your own church, and throughout this entire world, people are in need of God's clarity about their relationships and their sexuality. Participating in the work of H.W.O.M. is one way to acknowledge Christ's healing power for the sexually broken.

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