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May 2008 Highlights

Relax and Enjoy the Journey! By Pastor Phillip Lee

Change! How is that defined? What does that look like? Certainly, the greatest change that any man or woman can experience is to be born-again; knowing that your ultimate destination has been changed from hell to heaven and thereby spend eternity with Christ. However, I believe the interesting thing about the change process is that change itself is not or should not be our goal. Change is what results as we pursue a far more important and compelling goal: knowing, loving and "beholding" Jesus. Being saved and seeing Jesus are not the same thing. When once you have seen Jesus, it is impossible to remain the same, everything, and I do mean everything, doesn't appeal as it once did.

Clearly, freedom from homosexuality comes from a Person, rather than a method. Also, it is equally important for every man and woman regardless of what the individual may be pursuing to overcome, embrace the fact that God has delivered, He is delivering, and He will deliver. "And we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Lord's glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from our Lord, who is the Spirit" (2 Corinthians 3:18).

From time to time, I have found myself asking, "Why do some people make it out of homosexuality while others don't?" Reflecting over these fourteen years of full-time ministry to those impacted by same-gender attraction, one common denominator among the men and women who have experienced a significant change involves the issue of control in their lives. These individuals have decided to follow Christ and do His will at any cost. Ultimately, it comes down to this, "Which do I want more: homosexuality or Christ?"

All Christians face the decision of accepting or rejecting Christ's lordship over their lives. To be sure, there is a significant difference between knowing Jesus as Savior versus Lord. It's not at all unusual for the individual impacted by same-gender attraction to face this reality much sooner than most. As our Creator, God is the only one who knows exactly how to restore us. Undeniably, for Him to complete His healing work in each of our lives, He calls for our cooperation.

Recently, I was reminded that not one of us has ever lived an unloved moment nor has God's love for us ever been based upon our performance. Have you considered that even our willingness and ultimate desire to abandon sin of any and every type comes from Him? Philippians 2:13 - "It is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure."

Submitting one's homosexuality to the recovery/change process always requires a number of practical steps and applications.

First, mantling ourselves with Christ's lordship always requires our trusting in His timing for our recovery. Anytime we possibly develop and embrace the "God-do-this-now-or-else" mindset, we set ourselves up for disappointment and failure. Can you imagine if many years ago I had said to God - "You've got three months to heal me of AIDS. If you don't, I quit!" We cannot put time limits on our healing or restoration. God always, always has a unique time table for each and every one of us.

Yielding to the lordship of Christ and the change process requires perseverance, determination and sometimes daily surrender despite painful emotions or powerful attractions. It is not at all unusual for God to wait until we have developed a significant trust in Him before allowing strong emotions such as anger or rage, sorrow, even jealousy, to surface. There may even be times when an individual finds the tsunami of homosexual desire to be overwhelming. When these emotions and desires of the flesh occur, we must not remain in denial, we must acknowledge them, pray for God's strength to deal with them and seek guidance, prayer and healing for the underlying issues. James 5:16 - "Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective."

I would submit the individuals that have or are most likely to leave homosexuality behind are those who exhibit a constant excitement and anticipation of what God will do next in their lives. Each man and each woman that has closed the "option door to homosexuality" sees God at work even in the smallest details of this journey called life. Christians throughout the ages have had a multitude of sinful habits, addictions, and compulsive behaviors to overcome and replace with truth. The very same Christian principles and disciplines that helped them will help you as well. Even before the foundation of the world we each were known and chosen for a purpose. Indeed, success is a journey - not a destination. Enjoy the journey!

"The people who know their God will be strong and do exploits!" (Daniel 11:32)

From All of Us at His Way Out Ministries...

To each of you who continually bless us by your encouragement, ministry participation, monthly financial support, offerings, and prayers...we remain truly grateful. His Way Out Ministries is proclaiming to, educating, and impacting the world with the biblical truth that freedom from homosexuality is possible when Jesus Christ is Lord of your life!

Prayerfully Yours,

Pastor Phillip Lee

Executive Director
His Way Out Ministries

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We Need Your Support!

Through your donations, God enables us to minister Christ's healing to the sexually broken around the world. All of us at His Way Out Ministries remember that God has provided financially for the needs of this ministry and a growing staff for more than thirteen years, and we thank Him for it. We rely on your help, and pray God will keep His Way Out Ministries on your heart. Thank you for your faithfulness, especially during the lean summer months.

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Ministry Update and Prayer Requests

Since the beginning of 2008, HWOM has seen a 50% increase in the number of church referrals for teenagers struggling with unwanted same-gender attraction.

Our ministry to parents with children involved in homosexuality has increased 75% since the beginning of this year. All of the families referred our way are Christian.

Requests from churches to educate, equip and train their congregations regarding the complexities of homosexuality has increased dramatically with HWOM speaking, teaching and sharing testimony, at churches of various denominations, nearly every Sunday.

Please pray for the men that are currently enrolled in our "Time Out" Discipleship Series which is specifically designed to help them understand and overcome the complexities of same-gender attraction.

Please pray for the numerous families impacted by homosexuality that faithfully attend our L.I.F.E. group meetings seeking education, encouragement and support.

Our ministry in Guyana, South America continues. HWOM will return to Guyana this August offering a two-day conference in Georgetown, the capital of Guyana, facilitating three days of leadership training on how to facilitate support groups, and sharing teaching and testimony on radio and television.

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Argument/Answer

Argument: "How can love of any type be wrong?"

Answer: "Love, in and of itself, is not enough to justify a relationship or behavior. Scripture places boundaries on human relationships, offering no compromise even if love may be present. If a form of sexual relating is wrong, it remains wrong no matter what type or degree of love may go along with it."

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ONLINE SPECIAL: Phillip Lee LIVE at UBC

On Sunday, October 10, 2007, Pastor Phillip Lee spoke to the congregation of University Baptist Church on the subject What Does the Bible Say About Homosexuality?

You can Listen LIVE to the 6.2 MB, 36min, MP3 at this link.

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Bible Study at Ricky's Retreat

By invitation of Audrey Chavez, Director of the Bakersfield AIDS Project, His Way Out Ministries has been invited to begin facilitating a bible study at Ricky's Retreat, a home for individuals impacted by HIV/AIDS. For many years, His Way Out Ministries has partnered with the Bakersfield AIDS Project endeavoring to meet the needs of individuals in our immediate community struggling with HIV/AIDS. Recently, several individuals at Ricky's Retreat expressed their desire to have a bible study and His Way Out Ministries was contacted and asked if we would be available and willing to lead the study. What a wonderful privilege and honor to share God's Word with men and women that have a deep and genuine desire to understand the truth and hope of Scripture. The bible study begins this month.

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Coming Up This Month!

Thank You!...Laurelglen Bible Church, Bakersfield, CA, Olive Knolls Nazarene Church, Bakersfield, CA, Bakersfield Christian High School, Bakersfield, CA, Azusa Pacific University, Azusa, CA, His House of Refuge Church, Bakersfield, CA, University Baptist Church, Bakersfield, CA, New Life Community Church, Pismo Beach, CA and Exodus International for the recent opportunities to share testimony, raise awareness, educate, and encourage the Body of Christ to minister to those who struggle with homosexuality.

May 2 to 4 -My Redemptive Vision Annual Spring Retreat - Colorado Springs, CO - Enjoy interactive worship, relationship workshops, professionally facilitated breakout groups, cozy accommodations and much more! My Redemptive Vision is a gathering of pilgrims on the healing journey to reunite with each other and reconnect with God, yourself, your spouse, and answering the question, "What am I recovering to?" For more information, please visit Healing for the Soul, call (760) 590-7685 or email Info at Healing For The Soul

May 3rd - L.I.F.E. Group Meeting - If you have chosen to leave homosexuality, or you are a spouse, family member or friend of someone struggling with homosexuality or you desire to learn about the complexities of homosexuality, this meeting is for you! On Saturday, May 3rd, Pastor Phillip will be teaching and leading a discussion on: "Change: Compromise, Crisis, and Correction."

May 4th - University Baptist Church, Bakersfield, CA - His Way Out Ministries will be facilitating a Question/Answer session regarding homosexuality and related issues.

May 6th - Bakersfield Christian High School - Once again, Pastor Phillip will spend the entire day at Bakersfield Christian High School teaching students and faculty about freedom from homosexuality in Christ Jesus.

May 8 to 10 - Exodus Global Alliance International Conference: Sexuality, Truth and Grace - Toronto, Canada The impact sexuality has on personal, family and social levels make it the crucial issue of our time. Exodus Global Alliance has and continues to boldly proclaim that change is possible! Make plans to attend the 5th international conference, one of the most widely respected information and training events on issues surrounding homosexuality. The Saturday Youth Conference will offer a variety of workshops, testimonies and presentations to inspire and help youth make healthy and Godly choices. For more information about the conference, please visit Exodus Conference or email Bryan at Exodus Global Alliance

May 9th - Ricky's Retreat - His Way Out Ministries will be facilitating a bible study at Ricky's Retreat, a home for individuals impacted by HIV/AIDS.

May 10th - "Time Out" - A discipleship support group for men struggling with same-gender attraction meets from 9am to 11am. Our teaching topic for discussion will be "Saying Good-Bye": What factors motivated you leave homosexuality behind?, How do you deal with loneliness?, and much more.

May 24th - "Time Out" - "Breaking Addictive Patterns": Has pornography played any role in your struggle?, When do you believe sexual temptation evolves into sin?, What are some effective strategies for dealing with sexual temptation?
Time Out is a discipleship support group for men struggling with same-gender attraction and meets from 9am to 11am.

May 26th - Memorial Day - His Way Out Ministries office will be closed.

May 30 - June 1 - Every Man's Battle Seminar - Sacramento, CA For more information, please visit Healing for the Soul, call (760) 590-7685 or email Info at Healing For The Soul

June 14 -Called to be Free: Compassion and Redemption for the Sexually Broken - A one-day conference on Saturday, June 14, 2008 in Yorba Linda, CA. For more information about the conference, please visit Living Stones Ministries or call (626) 968-6683.

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How You Can Help His Way Out Ministries

  • Ask your pastor to check out this website.

  • Encourage your pastor to consider hosting a seminar or inviting His Way Out Ministries to speak at your church.

  • Ask your church to consider adding His Way Out Ministries to its missions budget.

  • Add His Way Out Ministries to your prayer list.

  • Tell your friends about His Way Out Ministries and encourage them to visit this web site.

  • Give to His Way Out Ministries, either a special one-time gift or on a monthly basis.

  • Show our teaching DVD or Video: "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change" to your Sunday School class.

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Video: "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change"


Homosexuality and the Reality of Change presents a biblical perspective on the homosexual behavior with honesty and compassion. The 50 minute video contains information on: Can Homosexuals Really Change?, Will the Person Become Heterosexual?, How Long Does Change Take?, Exposing the Roots of Homosexuality, HIV and AIDS, Biblical and Scientific Evidence for Change, and much, much more.

This video is an excellent resource for teachers, churches, pastors, support group leaders, or anyone desiring a clear, comprehensive understanding of homosexuality.

The Good News of Jesus Christ and His love, acceptance, and forgiveness, His power to heal and restore has brought hope to many struggling with homosexuality. If you know someone struggling with same-gender attractions Homosexuality and the Reality of Change can help.

Videos are available on VHS or DVD at a cost of $20.00. To order your video...give us a call today.

We recently received, and watched, the video you sent us. It was excellent. We will be sharing it with other people at our church. One part that especially ministered to us was when Pastor Lee said from Philippians 1:6 that God is never going to give up His job of working in our life to conform us to the image of Christ. It helps makes sense of life's trials. Thank you for your ministry...Tom & Catherine

Preview "Homosexuality and the Reality of Change"
2min 38sec, 1.3MB, QT.mov

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IT'S ABOUT LIFE:
Food Ministry to Those Impacted by AIDS


AIDS profoundly impacts one's life whether that person has been infected by it or they are a family member or a friend of someone who has. The social stigmas, fears and especially the "aloneness" associated with AIDS makes it oppressive to live with. "IT'S ABOUT LIFE" is a crucial part of His Way Out Ministries. Because His Way Out Ministries is committed to compassionately communicating God's heart through a caring Christian community, His Way Out Ministries will be a receiving house for non-perishable food items. This will assist those with AIDS to maintain a balanced diet and good nutrition. Two major considerations in food donations for folks with AIDS are speed and ease of preparation. An appetite sometimes doesn't last long and the item has to be readily accessible and speedily prepared for the patient to be able to enjoy it.

We invite churches, companies, ministries, corporations, individuals, and the entire City of Bakersfield to join with us in caring. Offer your support by donating the below listed items.

Canned tuna Canned soups
Canned ravioli Canned pasta products, e.g.Spaghettio's
Hamburger Helper Peanut butter
Hamburger Helper Peanut butter
Jams and jellies Breakfast cereals
Breakfast bars Fruit cocktail
Canned peaches Top Ramen
Cup o' Noodle soups Canned potatoes
Canned corn Macaroni and cheese mixes
Rice 'o Roni type mixes Chili beans
Tomato paste, Tomato sauce Spaghetti sauce
Potted meats Canned stews
Instant potato mixes, e.g., scalloped Instant oatmeal variety packs
Kleenex Paper towels
Toilet paper Popsicles (not frozen)
Instant breakfast drinks Spaghetti

His Way Out Ministries is located at Brimhall Road Assembly of God. Items will be distributed in cooperation with other outreaches in our community. This is a continuous, on-going ministry. For further information, please call 661-589-4262. God Bless You for your giving.

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His Way Out Ministries Services

  • Consultations
  • Family Support Group
  • Individual Prayer Ministry
  • "Time Out" Discipleship Series
  • Ministry Support Network
  • Speakers available to address Christian groups
  • "Moving On" Advanced/Closed Support Groups
  • "It's About Life" Ministry to Those Impacted by AIDS

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Send a Donation to His Way Out

In your own church, and throughout this entire world, people are in need of God's clarity about their relationships and their sexuality. Participating in the work of H.W.O.M. is one way to acknowledge Christ's healing power for the sexually broken.

Through your financial support or volunteer involvement, you can add your voice to those who are speaking the truth of God with integrity.

His Way Out Ministries is a nonprofit, tax exempt Christian ministry associated with Exodus International.

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